Penny Flame’s Expert Guide to Hand Jobs

Understanding how your partner’s body works and how to touch it with your hands is so important to giving and receiving great sex. Unfortunately, there’s a common misunderstanding among too many men that you just poke at the vagina to give pleasure, along with too many women thinking that you grab the cock and pump ferociously until he cums.

So a DVD that specifically focuses on how to give hand jobs sounds like a much needed resource.  However, since this is also porn, I was interested in seeing how well the stars stuck to the premise. Would we really see only hand job techniques on men and women or would all that valuable information get lost and take a backseat to the porno style sex?

Infomercial footage feels tired and fluffy

It  starts off as a playful infomercial featuring male stars giving rave reviews about the hand jobs they’ve received from Penny Flame. Unfortunately, they continue to use it as a transition between segments and it becomes tired and feels like fluff.

Easy, Valuable Information in workshops, but also lacking

Two different workshops, one focusing on giving a female a hand job and the other on giving a man starts off the information part of the DVD. Penny discusses lube options and explains its importance. She gives separate female and male anatomy lessons focusing on the really sensitive areas and how to pleasure each gender with only your hands. On her friend, Harmony, she demonstrates different vulva massage techniques, how to stimulate the clit, directly and indirectly, and then with her male friend, Justice Young, she shows different stroking techniques and how to pleasure the head/glans. The demonstration of finger penetration and g-spot stimulation on a woman was way too brief.

A nice touch was Penny inquiring with each partner about what they like and having each of them explain and guide her to doing those things. There’s valuable information within each workshop that’s easy to learn, but it all seemed to end very quickly and I immediately thought that if this was a Nina Hartley DVD, there would be so much additional information not just about how to give a hand job, but about male and female sexuality in general that would round out your education on this topic and it’s the simple things that were missing for me. For example, in the workshop, Penny just squirts the lube directly on her partners’ genitals. In my experience, lube can very cold when just poured onto your warm genitals. You should at least put it in your hands first to warm it up, but Penny doesn’t mention that during the lube talk or demonstration part of the workshop and that’s something that I know Nina would.

Amber Rayne and Daniel’s Scene is the hottest and most educational

I enjoyed Amber and Daniel’s scene the best for several reasons. Firstly, they stuck to the premise through the entire scene. They only gave each other hand jobs; they don’t even get their mouths involved. Also, you learn a lot in this scene. Daniel brings Amber to orgasm three times using different techniques. First, he uses his hands only. Then he uses a little finger vibe and the last time she gets on top of him and rides his hand to orgasm. Each way followed all the rules mentioned in the workshop.

Then when it was her turn, she only used her hand and the great close-ups showed different techniques that can be used to pleasure the penis. Daniel is uncircumcised, so viewers learn how to work with that. She brings him to orgasm by stroking him with 2 hands and through all of it there was great chemistry between them and that’s hot!

Alexis Texas and Christian’s Scene Starts off really well

While Christian gets his mouth more involved in giving Alexis a hand job, he keeps his hands actively involved too and the great close-ups in the beginning really show how you can warm a lady up without even taking her panties off. You can also see real well how you can trace, with your tongue, her lips and above her clit. Alexis shows him and tells him how to rub and touch her throughout the process. There’s great chemistry; he’s totally digging just seeing her get excited and she’s genuinely digging what’s happening to her and he brings her to what appears to be a real orgasm.

When it’s her turn, she starts off with a slightly different technique than Amber did. They also showed some semblance of massaging the perineum. However, it looked like she was she was rubbing too lightly and I believe for that to be really pleasurable; you have to apply some pressure during the massage.  Anyway, most of the techniques you see are good, however, the scene started to fail for me when she starting doing a lot of posing and looking into the camera, which ultimately felt fake. Eventually it seemed like she was getting tired and he wasn’t going to cum so she jumped on top of him and he quickly banged her until he came. That was disappointing since this is about hand jobs and the quick interviews in the beginning set up the premise that Penny‘s techniques brought them to incredible orgasms.

Penny Flame and Anthony Rosano’s scene was the most disappointing

This is a shame because there was a lot of chemistry and their sex was really hot overall. What disappointed me was that the scene with our expert is the scene that veered away from the movie’s premise the most.  In the workshop Penny stated, don’t go right for the clit. As soon as Penny’s panties came off, Anthony immediately sucked on her clit. He also fingered her right away without really rubbing or massaging her vulva like we were taught in the workshop earlier. If there was a voice over explaining how this is an exception to the rules we learned earlier, I wouldn’t have had a problem, but there wasn’t. Even though Penny seems to be genuinely enjoying what he’s doing and the camera is getting good close-ups so you can see the technique, the rush to all of this can be confusing the ultimate message of “take it slow” for the viewer. However, even though rules were broken, there’s still valuable info to learn about techniques and guiding your lover in the scene and Anthony ultimately brings her to orgasm with just his hands.

Penny starts out her hand job with a different technique than the other ladies, so there’s still something to learn but before she starts, she puts the lube in her hands first to warm it up. It killed me that it took the whole DVD to even bring this important fact to light. Anyway, she shows off all the techniques she discussed in the workshop. They even get into a 69 demonstrating how a lady can receive pleasure while giving it and from what I understand about male sexuality, some men get more excited with their lovers pussy in their face while getting a hand job so it’s all good.  Unfortunately, they don’t tell you that, Nina would have at least made the comment.

Unfortunately, Penny the expert, does not bring Anthony to orgasm with these awesome techniques that the guys raved about at the beginning. Instead, she jumps on Anthony’s cock and they have lots of intercourse. It’s hot, there’s great chemistry, however, this is the last scene on a DVD about hand jobs and it ends with the guy pounding away and shooting his load on her ass.  I was just so disappointed that they didn’t stick to the hand job premise.

Overall Thoughts and Recommendation

As excited as I was about this DVD, I’m somewhat disappointed in the lack of sticking to the premise. Only 1 out of the 3 women brought their male partner to orgasm with a hand job. Please don’t misunderstand; I’m not implying that the techniques are bad, although that’s what one might think.  From what I understand, some guys just need more than what a hand or mouth can provide to reach orgasm. It’s just so disappointing that there’s no explanation given to that simple fact and that explanation can be helpful in understanding how to please your guy and how a man’s body works.

I’m familiar with many of the techniques shown, discussed and used. Hubby and I have been successful with them. I also loved that in every scene you saw the couple communicate about how they liked to be touched and that was a positive addition to sex making it a better experience for both which I think is super important since so many people have difficulty sharing what they want. All the women seemed to have genuine orgasms from the hands only stimulation they received.

While there were lots of things that didn’t work for me on this DVD and I felt the information was lacking, ultimately, good, valuable information is there. The techniques are easy to learn and incorporate into sex. The voice overs and pop-ups make the information even more clear and fun to learn. So even if you add a couple of the techniques into your repertoire or heed a bit of the advice, you’ll find your lover enjoying him/herself a lot more during sex.

At the time of writing, this DVD is $27.00 to purchase and I just don’t feel like it’s worth it because you can buy Nina Hartley’s Advanced Guide to Oral Sex for only $9.50 and that has a TON more information in it. However, Penny Flame’s guide here has an overall younger, hipper feel to it and if that’s what you’re looking for, then I highly recommend that you at least watch it either by rental or online viewing; it’s a more affordable way to go for this one to get some new techniques and be well on your way to becoming a better lover.

• Starring: Alexis Texas, Amber Rayne, Anthony Rosano, Christian, Danny Wylde, Harmony, Justice Young, Penny Flame
• Directed by: Penny Flame, Tristan Taormino
• Studio: VividEd
• Running Time: 1 hour 40 minutes
• Extras: Watch scenes with or without instructions and voice over, DVD-ROM compatible, Safer Sex Mini Feature

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