So I’m always on the hunt for items and ideas that take the pressure out of having hot sex. In fact for many years, the same recurring questions have been asked on AllSexAdvice.com about how to have hot sex, spice up sex or revealing fantasies to a partner. These questions come from people new to sex to folks that have been sexually active and in relationships for many, many years. If you have similar questions, this is the perfect review for you. I’m not a fan of Cosmopolitan Magazine, never have been, so when I got this deck I figured it would be a bullshit waste of money that I could let others know about. So let’s explore it…
The Cosmos Steamy Sex Games Pack is a box set containing 12 games/challenges to facilitate various hot and steamy sexual encounters for you and your hunny. The cards are well made with a glossy finish and don’t feel like they’ll rip or tear easily. The glossy finish seems to protect the cards a bit allowing you to wipe off any juices or lube that you may get on them without totally destroying the cards. They are well designed with vivid colors and pictures that seem to compliment each game/challenge making them visually pleasing to play with.
Every game has an instructional title card, followed by a key card containing the supplies you’ll need or information you’ll need to know in order to make things happen smoothly and successfully. The games are the following:
Using 5 lick-able treats (jelly, chocolate syrup, etc.) blindfold your lover, have him/her pick 5 body part cards and apply treat to your body. Your partner has to lick body part with treat and identify what it is, then you switch, until you can’t keep your hands off each other. This is an easy way to incorporate more kissing and foreplay into sex and experiment with food and edible items.
6 cards containing basic questions you ask each other about one another, i.e. “What’s my favorite sex position.” etc. If question is answered correctly by partner, there’s a reward, something your partner wants to do sexually. If it’s answered incorrectly, there’s a penalty and your partner has do something sexually that you want to do. There’s really no loser, everyone wins because either way, you’re both getting some action. This gets couples talking about basic sexual desires in a fun way, opening the doors of sexual communication which can be very difficult for couples.
5 instructional cards guide a couple through various erotic foreplay and teasing type activities. You must follow and finish all 5 cards before you can have sex. I can see this teaching couples that taking things slow and not jumping straight to the intercourse can also be really hot and satisfying. Intercourse is not the be all, end all of a great night of sex.
4 cards that start an erotic story/fantasy. You and your partner have to explore your naughty minds and, speaking out loud, finish the fantasy/story. I can see this being a fun way to the get the night started over cocktails before any clothes come off. In fact, with some, as you finish the story, you can do a sexy strip tease and really bring the story to life. This is a great game to get couples talking sexually and about sex, but not necessarily in a way that has them stating this is what I want, need, desire to do. There’s a bit less stress to it as far as revealing yourself because you’re just being creative and speaking hypothetically. It can be good for those that are more shy when it comes to expressing their wants. However, if a person is too self-conscious, they may find coming up with something sexual too stressful.
7 cards with a sexual challenge for that day. The idea is for 1 person to pick a card a day and at some point of the day, do the challenge. As long as you both commit to seeing it through, you’ll be having sex or getting seriously sexual with each other every day for 7 days straight. That will ultimately bring you both closer, create anticipation to be with each other again and get serious sex happening. A good one for couples that have fallen into a rut and are not sure how to ignite that spark again.
This one’s all about her pleasure, don’t worry guys, there’s a challenge that’s all about you, however, the guys will enjoy doing this one. Again, everybody’s a winner. Roll a pair of dice, whatever the total is, pick the corresponding card and do the what it says for 3 minutes. You must stop after 3 minutes and move on to the next card. We all tend to get stuck in our ways with how we have sex and start sex and this kind of game keeps things random. It also shows guys different ways and places they can give pleasurable attention to their ladies. I’m all for things that encourage more foreplay!
8 cards focusing on giving the guy pleasure on parts of his body that are NOT his penis. Guy selects a face down card and his lover follows the instructions. Go through as many cards as you can until he can’t take it anymore. Sexual activity tends to put a lot of focus on the penis, this game shows the both of you, that there’s more to a guy then his cock and that those other spots can, with proper attention turn into hot spots as well.
Similar to the erotic dice, but expanded. Instead of just rolling dice and performing act on one die to body part on other die, you roll the dice, whatever the total is, you perform act to that body part, but with the cards, you get further ideas and suggestions, adding additional spice to the erotic dice. Again, this expands on foreplay time and allows a couple to get to know each other better sexually.
A naughty spin on the traditional Major Arcana. The cards have been given more erotic, naughty meanings to heat up the reading. Cosmo claims you can learn about his sexual past, what his current desires are and what to look forward to in the future. This can be a playful, sexual way to start the evening over cocktails. I think it’s fully beneficial if you do it in a conversational style together and discuss the cards that come up to learn about what your partner really desires. So again, you’re opening up communication in a way that’s more playful. Although, I think this is the one unnecessary part of the deck.
6 cards from the Cosmo Kama Sutra to spice up sex. These will be hot and helpful if you’re stuck using the same old positions and you both can’t seem to figure out what else to do. These positions show that a slight variation on a position can give great pleasure. These cards will not be enlightening if you’re normally hanging from the ceiling or regularly have your feet behind your head.
A sexy spin on the Truth or Dare Game. The regular game, in my experience always got sexual, however, this one guarantees it and you don’t have to come up with the question or the dare, it’s all thought out for you. The dares will definitely start the frisky behavior and you can leave it at that, and just keep teasing each other, or take it all the way into hot sex.
13 cards containing an item you’d find around the house. Each partner picks 1 card a day for 7 days and has to use that item in a sexual way, during a sexual encounter that day. This introduces sexual aids, sex toys into a couple’s sex life, so if you like, you can explore sex toys further. It also gets a couple having sex for 7 consecutive days and it gets the creative juices flowing, getting you both thinking about sex and thinking about pleasuring each other. Don’t worry though, if you don’t come up with anything on your own, each card has suggestions.
This is a great deck for certain kinds of couples. For one, people that are new to sex benefit from the ideas and instructions on how to have good sex while taking the pressure off trying to figure it all out at once. I also recommend the Cosmos Sex Games for couples newly in a relationship. It gets them opening up to one another about their fantasies and desires and gets them experimenting with each other in a non-pressured way. No one is telling the other to do it, you’re both just following the game. It also gets them having lots of sex. Lastly, I feel this is a great deck for couples that have been together for a while and have fallen into the infamous sexual rut. It’s not always easy to just jump back with both feet into the crazy sex you once had. Depending on how long the rut has lasted, people evolve and change and this deck can help you both to get to know each other, experimenting and having sex again in a playful way that should get sex back on track. This deck is NOT for those that have what I call a xxx rated sex life. If you’re swinging and have sex constantly and know your partner like the back of your hand, this deck will not bring your sex life to new heights.
For optimal success, both partners need to bring a fun, playful attitude and a sense of humor to truly enjoy this deck. It’s not a competition about who knows who better or to show your partner just how much he/she doesn’t know about you. If you use them that way, it will fail miserably. But if you’re looking to make things a bit spicier, add some new positions, more foreplay, explore your partner’s body more or get those doors of sexual communication open, then this game deck is right for you.